Paying More Attention To Your Woman

Communication is such an important factor in all relationships, business and personal alike, that it should come as no surprise that we need to discuss it here as well. What is communication, after all? It is the two-way interaction that occurs, both verbally and non-verbally. What is said with actions is as important, if not more so, than what is said with words. But here we’re going to focus our attention on the importance of verbal communication and what it will mean for your relationship. Keep in mind that when I talk about how things affect your relationship, I’m mainly concerned with your success in the realm of seduction.

Communication with words is something we all do on a daily basis. But, just like when you’re asked to give an impromptu speech, being asked to communicate in a particular situation just makes many of you cringe, lock up, and find yourself at a loss for words. Why? Mainly because when you have to think about what to say, you suddenly become concerned about what you’re saying. But if you just let it happen without any expectations, somehow everything works out a whole lot better.

That being said, think of your past relationships and where communication failed you. Was it something you said in a particular conversation that you came to regret later? Or was it something she said that you either treated as unimportant or simply didn’t hear at all? Or could it have been a time when you should have said something to her, but didn’t, and the results were equally regrettable? Surely all of these have happened to nearly everyone at one time or another. The trick is to not let these past failures define how you communicate now and in the future of your current relationship.

Talking is something we all think about when we hear the word ‘communication’. But, unfortunately, that first thought is the wrong one if you’re looking for a good relationship with potential for romance. Talking will get you nowhere, and worse, it may cause things to fall backward or even to fall apart. When you talk, you’re expecting someone else to listen.

But what about the listener? When does she get the chance to be heard? That’s why it’s so much better to change your view from one of simply talking, to one where you see communication as the carrying on of a conversation.

How To Turn A Friend Into A Lover

When two people are in a relationship, they need to share a certain level of compatibility that extends beyond the bedroom. Besides getting along as lovers, they need to be friends, in order to share each other’s joy and sorrow and be on the same wavelength, mentally and emotionally. Friends, who are close to each other, tend to have that kind of emotional and mental connection, which is why the friendship is shared in the first place. Imagine if you could find that kind of compatibility in a lover as well! Read on for tips how to turn a friend into a lover:

Remind them of what they like

If you have a male friend, who have hinted in the past about what he likes in you – certain physical or emotional characteristics that you possess – learn to highlight those features. Just don’t go overboard.

Remember, that when you were friends, how you looked or felt didn’t matter because he would love you nonetheless. But, when it comes to love, you need to present yourself in a way that will make him notice.

Change the talk

When people are friends they tend to talk about everything under the sun, from common interests or each other’s love interests! If you want this person to relate to you on a more intimate level as well. You could try flirting verbally.

Create the ambience

Instead of going with him to a ususal hangout like a movie or a coffee shop, you could change the venue to a more private and romantic setting.

Change your attitude

If this person is already your friend, he will know how you behave around someone you have more than platonic feelings for. The next time you meet him, start behaving with them the way you would around someone you like.

Body language

This is one of the most powerful tools to hint to people how you feel. The body language that two friends share is very different. All you have to do is change the way you touch your friend and if he has half a brain, he’ll get the hint.

Easy Tips To Have Happy Relationships

Have you ever dreamed of having a magic to make your love last longer? If there is a magic, love will be all around, no more sorrow. Or maybe it’s just that some people learn secrets of success from their grandparents or other relatives or friends. And since the latter is probably more accurate, here are some tried and true tips from people who have enjoyed long, happy relationships.

Dates: Keep dating each other. Even if life seems too busy, meet at the end of the evening for something light and easy, like viewing your favorite sitcom (record it if necessary) together or playing a game of Euchre.

Space: Give each other some space. Either you trust or you don’t. Get on with life, though. People need time alone and time with their mates and other friends. Be sure to give and take your fair share of space.

Forget: No need to “always” remember the bad things that happened during an argument. Actively “forget” sometimes. Be the first to apologize and make up. Go for it!

Fun: Couple tends to have fun on dates, then get married and too serious. Lighten up. Head to Yahoo Games (off http://Yahoo.com main site) and join in any number of card or other games. Or head to a local rental shop and rent an Xbox or other game player and some games.

Disagree: Agree that it’s okay to disagree on some issues, and leave it at that. No need to create a new religion or political movement just to appease both of you. You don’t have to agree on everything. And you won’t. And that’s okay.

Refresh: Take time to look back, refresh your memories and share what brought you together. Especially when times are difficult, lean back and rely on these old memories as your foundation and glue yourselves back together with them (not literally, of course!)

Memories: Make some together. Enjoy special moments, special anniversary dates and events. No need to be elaborate. For example, maybe you enjoyed watching a hot air balloon race one spring day. The next year, you might schedule time to watch it again. Make it an annual event. Collect postcards with balloons on the, playing cards, toss pillows…over time it becomes a theme.

Start now with these simple ideas to keep your relationship with your special person longer. Most important of all, couples can happily stay together as they understand and complete each other.

The Powerful Secret To A Loving Relationship

There are many factors that go into creating a loving relationship. Certainly it helps if two people have some things in common regarding how they like to spend their time. It also helps if they have common values around religion or spirituality, around politics, the environment, abortion, and personal growth. It helps if they both eat junk food or both eat organic food. It makes things easier if both are neat or both are messy, if both are on time people or both are late people. Physical attraction is also quite important. It’s great if they have common values around money and spending.

Yet a couple can have all of these and still not have a loving relationship if one element is missing. Without this essential ingredient, all the other wonderful attributes will not be enough to make the relationship work.

This essential ingredient is about intention.

At any given moment, each of us is devoted to only one of two different intentions: to control or to learn. When our intention is to control, our deepest motivation is to have control over getting love, avoiding pain, and feeling safe. When our intention is to learn, our deepest motivation is to learn about being loving to ourselves and others.

The motivation to get love rather than be loving can create havoc within a relationship.

Let’s look at a typical relationship issue and see what happens regarding the two different intentions. Jason and Samantha are feeling emotionally distant from each other, and they haven’t made love in a month. The problem started when Samantha stated that she wanted to take an expensive vacation and Jason objected. Samantha got angry, Jason gave in, and they have been distant ever since.

Samantha’s intention was to have control over getting what she wanted. She equates an expensive vacation with love – if Jason does this for her, then he proves his love for her. She used her anger as a way to have control over getting what she wants. She wants control over feeling special to Jason.

Jason’s intention is to avoid pain. He gave himself up to have control over Samantha not being angry with him. He hopes that by giving Samantha what she wants, she will see him as a good and loving husband.

However, because both Jason and Samantha were trying to control each other rather than be loving to themselves and each other, their interaction created emotional distance.

What would this have looked like if their intention had been to learn?

If Samantha’s intent had been to learn, she would not have become angry. Instead, she would have wanted to understand Jason’s objections. If Jason’s intention had been to learn, he would not have given himself up. Instead he would have wanted to understand why this particular vacation was so important to Samantha. Both Samantha and Jason would have been caring about themselves and each other, rather than wanting to get love or avoid pain. In their mutual exploration about why they each felt the way they did, they would have learned what they needed to learn – about themselves and each other – to reach a win-win resolution. Instead of Samantha ostensibly winning and Jason losing, they would have come up with something both of them could live with. With some exploration of his financial fears, Jason might have decided that the vacation Samantha wanted would be fine. With understand of Jason’s financial concerns, Samantha might have decided on a less expensive vacation. In either case, both of them would have felt fine about the outcome.

No matter how much Jason and Samantha have in common or are attracted to each other, their love will diminish when their intent is to control rather than learn. It’s amazing how quickly love vanishes when one or both partners have the intent to control. It’s equally amazing how fast it comes back when both partners have the intent to learn.

Relationship Renewal

Relationship renewal day will be celebrated on 4th May. This is the day to renew and bring new freshness in relationships. What does this mean? Why do relationships go dull and bad some times? Can bad relationships be renewed? Let us talk about all these.

Most of the relationships go through phases. In the beginning the relationship is full of care and love. The partners/spouses show extreme love and concern for each other. Till then they have not found out the differences. They crop up after some time. There are few ways the difference crop up. One may be expectations. The other may be- I am being used complex. The third may be- probably we are not right for each other. Let us find out how to bring a new life to the relationship that is suffering because of the problems I mentioned and other problems.

The first step is to stop complaining and begin thanking your partner. No one likes to hear complains every day. They also have their complains. Stop complaining and start saying Thanks for all that your partner does for you. You may say that there is nothing to thank for, but still try and find a reason to say -Thank you. That will bring immediate change and you will notice it.

The next step is to talk with your partners about his/her problems. Become a genuine friend and find out what is troubling them. That will make your partner feel that you are concerned. When you listen to their problems, you may find lot of truth in that. Try to do what ever you can to solve the problems and never let your partner feel lonely.

The third step is to begin saying I Love You in as many ways as possible. Let your partner feel the love again. This expression of love will bring the spark of affection back in your life.

How To Propose Her Like A Gentleman

It comes a moment in life when all of us, men, have to make the big step and ask the question; the proposal in marriage. This should be a memorable and delightful experience so you have to make it perfect. If you decided to ask the big question to your partner, you should know from the beginning how to make this perfect and create an unforgettable moment for both of you.

This is an important moment in our life and includes a lot of preparations. Before making the proposal make sure that this is something that you both want; so talk with her about the possibility of getting married but don’t show your plans. The proposal itself should still be a surprise, so find a moment and a way that she won’t be suspecting. You have to choose the right engagement ring, the right style for her and for this you may ask her mother or her best friend help, but if the bride wants to be part of the buying or designing process of her engagement ring you have to ask her opinion first. Also you have to know the right time to do it, she has to be relax, because if she is passing a bad time from her life it be all screwed up.

A brilliant proposal depends on knowing what makes her happy. If she is the romantic type, your proposal should take this account; if she prefers intimacy, you have to choose a place only for you two; if she adore spot-light then a more public proposal will be perfect and if she has a certain passion in life, you can try something unusual and extravagant. Women love originality.

Knowing the type of your partner you can choose the perfect way and place to make the proposal. Here are some useful tips that might help you:

-everyone knows the traditional proposal which still works; the man gets down on one knee and gets out a box with a ring before asking her to spend the rest of her life by his side

-if she likes being the center of attention plan a surprise party with all her friends and family; decorate the place with white balloons and paper wedding bells; when she enter the door get on one knee and do your thing

– if she is hopeless romantic try spelling it out in rose petals, or do it in one of her favorite locations

-if she is the sport type you may ask her from the heights of the mountain after a day of rock climbing; also during a parachute jump, or scuba-diving session

-if she likes basketball and goes to all games, a big surprise will be to see on the big screen from the stadium your proposal in marriage; it’s a big gesture of love you transmit for her in front of so many people

-also Valentine’s Day it’s a good opportunity to ask her; in this special day she is expecting to receive flowers and chocolates so she will be definitely surprised if you go there with a ring and a proposal in marriage

-if you are a shy guy and don’t want to ask her directly, make her a video; try to make a personal video of yourself proposing to her and watch the tape together

-if you know that she listens to the radio at a certain time everyday, making a dedication will work charms with her; but is preferable to call her while the big question is being asked

-by writing it in the sky it’s an incredible declaration of love; have a plane fly a banner; do it on a clear day and plan a romantic outside date and she’ll be pleasantly surprised

-the beach is perfect for a proposal; barely dressed at the beach, kissed by the sun, that’s the setting for a marriage proposal that will be a sexy, sultry experience; arrive at the beach first and build a sand castle that symbolize your intentions

-on the back of a limousine is also a good choice; rent a limo for a few hours and direct the driver to take you two of you past locations that have been meaningful in your relationship; have a bottle of champagne too

These are only few suggestions you can choose but there are a lot more. Pick up a memorable place, song or occasion such as where you first met, or first kissed. Be creative, incorporate your personality and make this a special moment. Focus on the moment and on her; think about what you will say to her and express your proposal with love and sincerity. The focus should be on her and the special moment you’ll be sharing. Do tell her why you want to marry her, tell her why she is the one for you, what marriage means to you and what hopes for the future are. If her answer is ”yes” announce and celebrate your engagement, but if she needs a time to think about it, be a gentleman and respect her.

Love Relationships - What It Takes To Make Love Relationships Work

At one point in my life I thought I could write poetry so I did, I wrote a poetry entitled Love. I was quiet proud of myself, I even nicknamed myself Lyrical One. In reality it was not a very good poem, but at that time I thought it was. The poem was about human love relationships and divine love relationships. In human relationships I defended love by pointing out the errors of human nature. In divine love relationships I pointed out the unconditional love from within.

Today there are more people looking for love than there are people in love. Why is that? I think love has now become a fantasy, a dream, a figment of the imagination, a possible impossibility. The divorce rate is high with money and infidelity being the leading causes; there is a rise in domestic violence resulting in death and suicide; women are portrayed as sex objects in the media; the rate of teenage pregnancy and single parenting continues to rise; and recently bullying has become a major problem resulting in children and teenagers committing suicide. Clearly there is a lack of love in human relationships.

The fact is love requires hard work, commitment and perseverance. In the beginning of love relationships people go through what is called the honeymoon phase. Love is new and exciting and couples tend to fall in love with the feelings of being in love. Once the honeymoon phase is over and reality sets in, some couples tend to encounter conflict, and they may no longer feel the same as they did in the beginning of the relationship. The feeling of love begins to drift away and habits that were cute in the beginning become annoying. Some couples are able to bounce back, some never do.

I believe one of the biggest challenges of love is growing together. As individuals we change as we grow older; our habits, likes and dislikes are altered. For example, people who dated in college and met again 20 years later, have to get reacquainted because so much about each person has changed over the years. It takes effort to grow together as a couple, as each partner changes interests they should simultaneously acknowledge and support each other's changes.

My observational experience from being around older couples that have been married for 40, 50, and 60 years is love thrives on consistency. Most couples felt the same way about each other as they did when they first met. The common factor among these couples was consistency; they did the same things they did when they first met. They talked, went out on dates, were romantic, and enjoyed each other's company. The common factor among all these couples was friendship; they were each other's best friend. I then concluded that couples should like and love each other.

My poem ended with my experience of unconditional love on a day to day basis. I wrote about self love which I later realized can be spiritual in nature. Love begins from within, a popular statement is "one must love oneself before anyone can love him or her." This statement has been proven true time and time again when addressing the problem of people looking for someone to make them happy or to love them.

It is my humble opinion that people should try being friends before becoming lovers. It is possible to love but not like a person. I believe this happens when people are not exactly compatible. Two people can love each other because they share some strong desirable qualities. But overall not like each other because there are qualities they simply do not like about each other, which happen to progress overtime. Despite the statistics of failing relationships, I truly believe that love can be successful when done right, and love can be a beautiful thing when you know how to love.

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Love Relationship Problems - How to Avoid the Two Troublesome Takers of Romantic Bliss

Even the most satisfying romantic unions will eventually face love relationship problems. Some of these challenges to romance are strong enough to rock the foundations of even solidly constructed loving relationships.

Other such potentially detrimental issues merely cause marks, scrapes, or temporary yet manageable romantic difficulty. Generally, the professional recommendations are to essentially always continue moving forward with your relationship, to seek supportive counseling, and to try creative and new tactics for resolving arguments or remaining obstacles.

However, intimate reality does prove that there are one or two nearly monumental conditions that loving couples and individuals alike may be wiser to avoid. Surely, you do not always have this option before the fact, but within the following explanations, do look for the clues that can also solve even preexisting romantic problems.

The first of the primary two love relationship problems you can avoid is choosing an emotionally troubled or weak persona to spend your life with. The greatest reason is that you are looking forward to a life of therapy, conflict, and roller-coaster rides that continually put your resilience abilities to the test.

Basically, EVERY individual has a breaking point, regardless of how observant, how kind, or even how skilled and calm he or she may appear to be. Although it is possible for a human being to utilize problem events as a vehicle for character development, the average person finds this extremely difficult to do, especially without psychological counseling.

The second of these two highly significant love relationship problems is neglecting to find a mate with whom you mutually share the appreciation and value of listening, speaking, conversing, and communicating. Much more than a merely popular analogy, there is much benefit to gain from having a mate who, regardless of how potentially damaging or threatening your romantic environmental experience becomes... can coolly and calmly remain balanced, doing and saying the things that bring peace plus foster future repair of romantic hurricanes.

When it all comes down to just the two of you face to face, there is no hiding that fact that the two of you either CAN or cannot continue to speak to and with each other in dignified, uplifting, supporting, and caring fashions while being truly genuine about it.

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Relationship Advice - The Issue of Sincerity in Love Relationships

Usually we see guys using sincerity to 'buy' love from a girl, to win the heart of the girl, or a girl persuades her boyfriend that she is very sincere in doing things for him, and demands that her boyfriend show her the same amount of love and appreciation back.

Somehow I do not get it; if we are truly sincere in showing love and appreciation to others, why are we expecting anything back in return?
This reduces sincerity to a loan that demands repayment in future for every good thing that one has received, instead of a beautiful free will gift that it once ever was.

And sincerity has ever since been a source of conflict in many couples' relationship. Girlfriends yell at their boyfriend, saying that with all the love, appreciation and sincerity that they give to their boyfriend, they demand why is their love not reciprocated in return in the same manner and form.

Boyfriends do the similar things by saying telling a girl that he is sincere to change himself, to prove himself as a better guy, and yet he fails to deliver at the end.

Let us be honest with ourselves. Sincerity should never be a currency, or it will always become a source of conflict. That is because we usually use what we contribute to the relationship as a major reason to state our stand.

However in order to minimize conflict with your loved ones, let not what you gave them freely to be treated as a loan.

Otherwise when both parties are demanding standards of each other, it results to major heartaches and a broken relationship instead of improving the love relationship between each other.

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Love Relationship Problems - Ways to Prevent Snowball Effect

Love relationship problems are common in any relationship, and although some have broken up because of these problems, others have been able to resolve them and moved on happily with their coupled lives. To help overcome these problems, both you and your loved one need to have an open mind when dealing with your relationship problems.

A number of problems that have occurred in a relationship tend to start out small. They may have been overlooked at first or were insignificant when it first started, but over time, all of these small problems would have accumulated and resulted in a build up of pent up frustrations. When you two begin arguing, neither of you would willing admit to being the one at fault. This is the important thing about being open-minded, so that you could just take the blame first and allow both of your feelings to cool down. There is a greater meaning to taking the blame first instead of pushing it away.

In some cases, only one of the two people involved is willing to work on the relationship and improve it while the other would rather let it fall apart. If your partner is clear on this matter and would not want to continue the relationship, then it would be best to conclude it before anyone gets hurt any further. It is also one of the ways of being open-minded because staying in a relationship for the sake of it will only hurt you continuously. Breaking up could actually be the best solution for your situation.

If both you and your loved one are willing to spend the time and effort on amending mistakes and improving your relationship with each other, then things will become much easier. You two have already opened your minds and considered the brighter side of your relationship. Plus, you two would allow yourselves to consider more options and listen to others' suggestions to save your relationship.

Next, learn to understand each other better by communicating more effectively. It would require you two to speak properly and make your intentions understood. At the same time, if any of you have any criticisms, it is best to listen to it without getting defensive and start avoiding any blame. You two need to understand that hearing each other's discomforts is one of the ways to pinpoint a possible source of problem and prevent it from worsening. If it can prevent a break up of your relationship, then taking the blame would be worth it.

Trying to listen to each other and not begin your accusations can be one of the most difficult things to do, unfortunately. It truly requires you to think calmly and have a level of tolerance to your partner's whines and complaints. It might be made worse if you also have complaints but your partner is not as wiling to listen as you are, resulting in a worse case scenario. When wanting to resolve the problems and save your relationship, remember that to keep an open-mind towards anything that can happen and anything that is said. It may be painful at first, but when it comes from your lover, it is something worthwhile to endure.

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