This Guy's In Love With You

Oh those magic words we love to hear, "this guy's in love with you," but is he? What does that mean anyway; how can you know if he really is in love with you or just 'in lust' for the moment? There are all kinds of opinions or potential answers to this question. The truth, the one you can trust, can be found inside yourself; it is contained within what you have always known. Are there things you can discard as untrue or unreliable? You decide. 1) Lie: "Love means never having to say "I'm sorry." Truth: Love means never intentionally doing or saying anything that would require you to say those words. And when you intentionally do it? You can't those words fast enough, because you are genuinely sorry. 2) Lie: Critical, always saying things like, "I'm trying to help you change, to help you." Truth: You may have stumbled into a man who fancies himself to be an architect, or much smarter than you, he professes to know what you can be if you would just try... and trust him. Translate this to you are unacceptable as you are; I need to change you so you be acceptable. 3) Lie: "I check your phone or emails follow you or keep close tabs on you because I care, I am trying to protect you." Truth: This is the nature of a controlling personality that is unable to trust. Worse, it bears the fingerprint of an abuser. 4) Lie: "I'm trying hard to get through to you (to make you think like me) but I can't, see what you made me do?" Truth: When anyone you are involved in a relationship with says those 6 simple words, "See what you made me do?" you have encountered a full-blown abuser. This is classic lingo from someone who is incapable of loving anyone else. 5) Lie: "I can't understand why you always make me angry." Truth: Love does not anger easily, it negotiates with understanding and the intent to preserve who you are, the person he fell in love with. What do you look for to know it could be the real thing? You stop, look and listen, just like when you were a child and facing danger like a busy street. Loving someone means seeing the best they can be; words and actions are a reflection of what someone thinks you are and will become. The answer has been before us for more than 2000 years; the bible may have said it best, "Love is patient, kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, is not proud, does not dishonor others, is not self-seeking, is not easily angered does not keep a record of wrongs, does not delight in evil, rejoices with truth, always protects, trusts, hopes and perseveres." If these principles apply to the person who says they are in love with you, they probably really are. Apply them and decide. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9245852