Causes of unhappiness are numerous, and some women are happy, but
the focus of this article is on why beautiful women -in particular- are
usually not happy.
It is a fact that most pretty women- worldwide- are unhappy, and this is because of many reasons. The reasons are:
1-High Expectations: being pretty, the woman expects more care & attention from her male partner. Sometimes the partner gives her some attention, but to her that is not enough, at least not enough according to her high standards.
2-Unworthy Partner: some beautiful women have reasons to think that they are superior to their partner, particularly if he is not handsome or rich or caring. They develop the feeling that he is not worthy of their beauty and that they should start looking for another partner.
3-Too Much Attention: it is common for a beautiful woman to get more attention, and normally men would look at her more than usual. In the beginning, she may like the attention, but as it gets more and more, she begins to feel it as an emotional pressure. Wherever she goes, whether to shopping malls, cinemas, coffee shops... etc., as more men (and even women) stare at her, she starts to hate going outdoor because of this pressure.
These causes are nuisance and can become irritating, but some women can cope and deal with them. However, the main cause of unhappiness among beautiful women is sexual abuse.
4-Sexual Abuse: During childhood or early adulthood, pretty girls suffer from sexual harassment or sexual abuse, usually and sadly, by... a relative. They grow with that negative experience and become unhappy beautiful mature women. Why Unhappy?
Negative Attitude: They tend to develop negative associations with life. Firstly, they may hate men, fear men, hate sex, and even worse develop a negative attitude towards life. They develop limiting beliefs like: men are monsters, men want only to use their body, they can not live happily, they are a prey... etc. Then they start to develop the notion of being a victim in life. They see all circumstances happening to them as if to victimise them, even positive events. They become hostile in their personality. Some of them as they grow, they think that they forgot the experience and that they do not remember it, at least on a daily basis, which is true. However, the unconscious mind which stored that experience makes her behave as if she remembers it very well. The unconscious mind may block - partially or completely- remembering the experience, but that does not mean it is gone. It is still very much in her system, emotional and mental system. Some women of that experience can succeed in finding a man and even marry him, but the relationship is far from happy or "natural". Why? Because she unconsciously is still defensive towards the man -husband in this case - and she is feeling insecure inside. This defensive attitude will make any relationship hard for both partners and especially for her.
The combination of these 4 causes mentioned here can make the beautiful woman feel as if her beauty is a curse on her. She wish that she were ugly. She becomes very unsatisfied with her life.
Any Solutions? What to Do?
Fortunately, therapy and personal coaching has become so advanced that there are many tools and techniques to deal with this widespread issue.
Useful Tips:
1-Tell the Secret by all Means: Some women are too shy to tell their secret to anyone. If you are that type, find a trusted friend and tell them what happened to you. According to the University of Texas, Austin, writing down secrets or telling them to a therapist, can decrease the level of stress hormones in your body. According to neuroscientist David Eagleman, keeping a secret can increase stress hormones. Furthermore, it is better to share that secret with your partner so as to make it easier for him to understand you and your behavior. You can also write your secrets in a daily journal or diary.
2-Use Self-Help Tools and Downloads: If you do not want to share your secret, you can use personal development audio downloads, especially, hypnosis downloads. These are very helpful for specific issues like phobias and traumas. With downloads, you do not need to share your experience with anyone. Be selective about the downloads and choose only the most relevant. It is better to ask before buying any download because the variety of these can be confusing to you.
3-Consult a Therapist or a Coach: even if you are too shy or afraid to share your experience, you can still seek the professional help of a coach. You can give a hypothetical name and location. The therapist is only interested in the details of the negative experience. It does not matter to therapists what name you use. Even you can do the consultation online rather than physical consultation which can also protect your identity, if that is crucial to you. Consulting a coach is your best option, even if it is expensive. You need to get rid of your negative past and live happily.
4-Join a Support Group: There are many online support and help groups you can join and get yourself expressed. You are not alone and there are many women like you who are suffering from the same experience, and they would love to share it with persons like you.
Remember many women were unhappy at some point of their lives, but with proper help, they succeeded in overcoming it and became happy again. You... too can do that. Smile at life... and it will smile back to you. Everyone loves a beautiful smile...
It is a fact that most pretty women- worldwide- are unhappy, and this is because of many reasons. The reasons are:
1-High Expectations: being pretty, the woman expects more care & attention from her male partner. Sometimes the partner gives her some attention, but to her that is not enough, at least not enough according to her high standards.
2-Unworthy Partner: some beautiful women have reasons to think that they are superior to their partner, particularly if he is not handsome or rich or caring. They develop the feeling that he is not worthy of their beauty and that they should start looking for another partner.
3-Too Much Attention: it is common for a beautiful woman to get more attention, and normally men would look at her more than usual. In the beginning, she may like the attention, but as it gets more and more, she begins to feel it as an emotional pressure. Wherever she goes, whether to shopping malls, cinemas, coffee shops... etc., as more men (and even women) stare at her, she starts to hate going outdoor because of this pressure.
These causes are nuisance and can become irritating, but some women can cope and deal with them. However, the main cause of unhappiness among beautiful women is sexual abuse.
4-Sexual Abuse: During childhood or early adulthood, pretty girls suffer from sexual harassment or sexual abuse, usually and sadly, by... a relative. They grow with that negative experience and become unhappy beautiful mature women. Why Unhappy?
Negative Attitude: They tend to develop negative associations with life. Firstly, they may hate men, fear men, hate sex, and even worse develop a negative attitude towards life. They develop limiting beliefs like: men are monsters, men want only to use their body, they can not live happily, they are a prey... etc. Then they start to develop the notion of being a victim in life. They see all circumstances happening to them as if to victimise them, even positive events. They become hostile in their personality. Some of them as they grow, they think that they forgot the experience and that they do not remember it, at least on a daily basis, which is true. However, the unconscious mind which stored that experience makes her behave as if she remembers it very well. The unconscious mind may block - partially or completely- remembering the experience, but that does not mean it is gone. It is still very much in her system, emotional and mental system. Some women of that experience can succeed in finding a man and even marry him, but the relationship is far from happy or "natural". Why? Because she unconsciously is still defensive towards the man -husband in this case - and she is feeling insecure inside. This defensive attitude will make any relationship hard for both partners and especially for her.
The combination of these 4 causes mentioned here can make the beautiful woman feel as if her beauty is a curse on her. She wish that she were ugly. She becomes very unsatisfied with her life.
Any Solutions? What to Do?
Fortunately, therapy and personal coaching has become so advanced that there are many tools and techniques to deal with this widespread issue.
Useful Tips:
1-Tell the Secret by all Means: Some women are too shy to tell their secret to anyone. If you are that type, find a trusted friend and tell them what happened to you. According to the University of Texas, Austin, writing down secrets or telling them to a therapist, can decrease the level of stress hormones in your body. According to neuroscientist David Eagleman, keeping a secret can increase stress hormones. Furthermore, it is better to share that secret with your partner so as to make it easier for him to understand you and your behavior. You can also write your secrets in a daily journal or diary.
2-Use Self-Help Tools and Downloads: If you do not want to share your secret, you can use personal development audio downloads, especially, hypnosis downloads. These are very helpful for specific issues like phobias and traumas. With downloads, you do not need to share your experience with anyone. Be selective about the downloads and choose only the most relevant. It is better to ask before buying any download because the variety of these can be confusing to you.
3-Consult a Therapist or a Coach: even if you are too shy or afraid to share your experience, you can still seek the professional help of a coach. You can give a hypothetical name and location. The therapist is only interested in the details of the negative experience. It does not matter to therapists what name you use. Even you can do the consultation online rather than physical consultation which can also protect your identity, if that is crucial to you. Consulting a coach is your best option, even if it is expensive. You need to get rid of your negative past and live happily.
4-Join a Support Group: There are many online support and help groups you can join and get yourself expressed. You are not alone and there are many women like you who are suffering from the same experience, and they would love to share it with persons like you.
Remember many women were unhappy at some point of their lives, but with proper help, they succeeded in overcoming it and became happy again. You... too can do that. Smile at life... and it will smile back to you. Everyone loves a beautiful smile...
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