If you have broken up already and want to reunite, it is imperative to stay in contact with your former partner or love. Do you want them to move on with their life? Or do you want them back? If they are not making any attempt at contacting you, make the first move. Don't be afraid of any rejection. At least you tried!
But when you do speak again---speak from your heart. By this I mean speak with a sincerity and openness that will impress and affect your partner. Be vulnerable and tell them how you really feel? Do you want to save the relationship? Let them know this.
Ask if they want to try again with you if the love is still there. One of the reasons why relationships fail is because people don't really pay attention and focus on what each person is really trying to say to each other. Both parties can be guilty of this, and it annoys and hurts many couples. Over the weeks, months, or years this can really grow into a big chasm with a couple that does not openly routinely communicate.
Another reason is that some couples fall into a stale routine together because they don't keep their relationship fresh and exciting. As the old saying goes, you have to work on a relationship. People can get caught up in the frenetic business of their daily lives that they literally lose track of each other. Sometimes this can lead to emotional or physical infidelity, which is a breach of trust.
People often get some of these new connections at work because they spend most of their time there, meeting new people. Wives often feel threatened by their husbands spending so much time at work because they are staying at home with the children. This is an unspoken issue many times, and some marriages or relationships never recover from this.
Lastly, reasons why relationships fail because some couples experience a troubling power struggle with each other. One of the partners is more controlling and won't allow the other person to express their individuality. They may want to take piano lessons, study meditation or yoga, take up golf, or learn a martial arts, which upsets a domineering partner. Learn to let go and feel glad that your partner is doing some activity that they enjoy.
One of the lessons of love is to allow your partner to grow and blossom in your relationship. Be aware that you can do the same thing, if you discuss these things with compromise. When you are living together with someone, time marches on and people change. Learn to adjust, love each other and enjoy each other. Make your commitment together the priority in your lives.
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