Is your relationship going downhill? Maintaining a relationship
is not easy and most couples encounter a few bumps along the road to a
lasting relationship. If not recognized earlier, these bumps could push
couples to take the relationship to the wrong direction leading to
break-ups or divorce. It is important to recognize these relationship
killers ahead of time to avoid further damage. There are reasons why
relationships fail and once these reasons are recognized ahead of time,
you'll have a better chance of saving your troubled relationship.
Although no one can enumerate all the reasons why relationships fail, we
have listed here the top reasons. So what are these relationship
killers?
Poor or lack of communication. One way
to connect with each other is for couples to have a strong and regular
communication. Couples tend to drift apart due to poor or lack of
communication. Many relation problems start with lack of communication.
Assuming that you know what your partner or spouse is thinking is
dangerous to your relationship. Misunderstandings and arguments are
often the result of not communicating with your spouse or partner. If
this is happening in your relationship then you should know that this is
one of the reasons why relationships fail and you have to do something
to improve the communication in your relationship.
Not supportive with each other's goals, ambitions and careers.
One of the reasons why relationships fail is the issues with careers
and ambitions between couples. When two people in a relationship have
different goals and ambitions and cannot compromise or support each
other, the relationship may suffer in the end. It is given that two
people naturally have different ambitions and careers to pursue but in a
relationship, it is best to support each other's interest or careers to
avoid strain in the relationship. It is easier to make the relationship
work with a partner or spouse who believes and supports their spouse's
or partner's career. If 100% understanding, acceptance and support is
not possible, at least a partner or spouse should be open to compromise
and willing to find a work around to make both their careers and
relationship work. Sacrifices and compromise is inevitable. Of course,
both should know how to balance their careers with their love life. It
is easier said than done but it is not impossible. There are couples who
are both successful in their careers at the same time lead a happy and
strong relationship.
Not getting along with your partner's friends and family.
One of the reasons why relationships fail is the conflict with people
closest to your spouse or partner. Let's face it, the world does not
revolve around you and your partner alone. There are people around you
like friends and families that both you and your partner cannot live
without. Not getting along with people closest to your partner can put a
strain in your relationship. A situation where you and your partner's
mother or best friend can't see each other eye to eye or can't stay in
the same room can be really stressful in the relationship. Holiday
dinners and family gatherings can be difficult if you are not in good
terms with your spouse's family and friends. If you want to create a
long-lasting relationship with your partner, it is best to get along
with people important to him or her.
Life's issues and baggage. There
are life's baggage and issues when brought to a relationship can cause
damage. A lingering ex can ignite jealousy, suspicion and distrust that
can put a strain in your current relationship, so it is best to be clear
with your ex that everything is already in the past and that you are
serious with your current relationship. Comparing your current
relationship with your previous relationships is also dangerous and
damaging to your relationship. Children and issues from previous
marriage can be challenging and can also affect your relationship so it
important to know how to handle these things and make your current
relationship work. One of the reasons why relationships fail is the
failure to deal with your life's issues and baggage.
Money issues.
Financial issues is one of the reasons why relationships fail. If not
addressed properly, money issues can kill your relationship. The stress
brought by financial woes and struggles can eventually ruin a
relationship. People or couples stressed with financial issues can
become irritable, irrational, hostile and cold with their spouse or
partner and these behaviors can slowly kill a relationship. It is best
to be honest from the start about your financial status, be open to
discuss each other's spending habits, money sharing and expenses. With
effective and open-minded communication, strategies and compromise about
money, a financially challenged couple can work things out and can save
their marriage.
Infidelity. Keeping a
relationship between two people is hard enough but involving a third
party or cheating a partner is a bomb that can instantly kill a
relationship. Infidelity is the ultimate relationship destroyer and some
relationships won't be able to survive this. Betraying the trust of
your partner is one of the top reasons why relationships fail. The
feeling of being replaced or being betrayed is not easy to cope with and
so the betrayed spouse or partner often walk out of the relationship.
Although there are couples who were able to survive cheating and make
the relationship work again, it is best to not to commit infidelity in
the first place if you want a long-lasting relationship.
Disgusting behaviors and habits.
Although it is true that loving someone includes accepting all his or
her flaws, in reality there are habits that can become annoying over
time and can push your partner to wake up one day and realize he or she
wants to get out of the relationship. Even simple things like not
putting back the toothpaste cap, not making the bed, not putting the
soiled laundry in the laundry bin or leaving dirty shoes and socks
around the house can be magnified if things are not going well in your
relationship and these can trigger your partner to finally end the
relationship. Nagging, being a war freak, fighting in public,
humiliating your spouse or partner, name calling or cursing when
arguing, holding on grudges, hitting your spouse or partner when you are
angry, throwing things when arguing, too much or unreasonable jealousy,
avoiding discussions about the issues in your relationship, lying or
being dishonest with your spouse or partner are some of the bad
behaviors that can damage a relationship and could lead to break-ups or
divorce. Being in a relationship should teach couples to be better
people and not become worse so it is better to change for the better to
create a strong relationship than acquire unfavorable habits or
behaviors that can eventually damage your relationship.
Things in your relationship becomes a routine. The
fire and excitement in the relationship could die because you became
too comfortable or complacent with each other that things become more of
a routine than an act of love. You become more like siblings or friends
than lovers. Being too comfortable with each other takes away the
excitement and the romance in the relationship and it makes the
relationship boring and a routine. When couples do the same things
together over and over again, they stopped growing as an individual and
as a partner. Break the routine and spice up your relationship. There
are things and interests that you can do separately to grow as a person
and there are things that you can do together to bond with each other.
It is important to allow your spouse or partner to have his or her own
space to do his or her own thing or enjoy the company of his or her
friends but it is also important to have time alone with each other
through regular dates or vacations to bond with each other and create
new and exciting memories.
Lack of intimacy and sex.
Life can become too busy and complicated that couples may end up too
busy or stressed for intimacy or sex which is not a good thing in a
relationship. Couples need to connect intimately emotionally and
physically and the best thing to do it is through sex. Sex could dry up
in a long-term relationship and couples tend to have less sex through
the years. Couples should prevent this from happening. Lack of intimacy
or sexual dissatisfaction is one of the reasons why relationships fail.
When couples stop having sex, they tend to get disconnected and detached
from each other and they become susceptible to infidelity. It is best
for couples to maintain an active sex life to keep the connection and
make the relationship more alive and exciting. Although it is important
to maintain an intimate connection with your partner through regular
sex, couples should know that it is not good to put pressure on your
spouse or partner to engage in frequent sex. You don't have to have sex
everyday but there are studies saying that having regular sex once a
week is ideal and enough to maintain that intimate connection between
couples. There are many hindrances to accomplish this like stress at
work, stress in everyday life, taking care of the children and the state
where you are not in the mood for sex but like any other issue in your
relationship, the frequency and timing of having sex should be discussed
and planned. Intimate connection through sex is vital in every romantic
relationship and when couples are not having enough connection through
sex, they have to do something to fix this problem to save the
relationship.
