After a breakup you should be prepared to compromise on important
issues while respecting your girlfriend's request for time alone. Read
three tips to help win your girlfriend back.
Compromise On Important Issues
There are important, underlying problems that resulted in your breakup up. Often, people reconcile and try to move forward without addressing the real reasons that led to the breakup. It leads to multiple breakups until the issues are ultimately resolved or the relationship comes to a definitive end.
Your focus is most likely on reconciling, but it's important to give equal attention to what caused your breakup. View your relationship and breakup from your girlfriend's perspective. Identify what her most important issues are, and be ready to reach a reasonable compromise.
Don't Invade Her Comfort Zone
If your ex has asked for space, and time apart it's important to respect her request. Allowing time apart is one of the most difficult obstacles following a breakup. You don't want the relationship to end, so allowing the separation to take it's course may seem counter intuitive.
Some men will try to side step her request by communicating through a third party like a friend or family member. What some don't take into consideration is how an ex will respond to this behavior.
Women consider close friends and family members as part of their support group. They've most likely discussed intimate details about the breakup with them. Trying to communicate through her support group will feel like an invasion of her privacy and most likely drive her further away.
Improve Without Making Drastic Changes
When trying to improve yourself after a breakup, keep in mind it's usually the effort and not drastic changes that receive the most praise. Your girlfriend loves certain aspects of your personality that she doesn't want changed.
Trying to improve yourself by losing a few pounds, or dressing better is always a good idea. Your ex will view you in a slightly different light and still consider you as an attractive partner. But drastic changes can alienate her attachment to you and also portray the changes as an act of desperation.
Compromise On Important Issues
There are important, underlying problems that resulted in your breakup up. Often, people reconcile and try to move forward without addressing the real reasons that led to the breakup. It leads to multiple breakups until the issues are ultimately resolved or the relationship comes to a definitive end.
Your focus is most likely on reconciling, but it's important to give equal attention to what caused your breakup. View your relationship and breakup from your girlfriend's perspective. Identify what her most important issues are, and be ready to reach a reasonable compromise.
Don't Invade Her Comfort Zone
If your ex has asked for space, and time apart it's important to respect her request. Allowing time apart is one of the most difficult obstacles following a breakup. You don't want the relationship to end, so allowing the separation to take it's course may seem counter intuitive.
Some men will try to side step her request by communicating through a third party like a friend or family member. What some don't take into consideration is how an ex will respond to this behavior.
Women consider close friends and family members as part of their support group. They've most likely discussed intimate details about the breakup with them. Trying to communicate through her support group will feel like an invasion of her privacy and most likely drive her further away.
Improve Without Making Drastic Changes
When trying to improve yourself after a breakup, keep in mind it's usually the effort and not drastic changes that receive the most praise. Your girlfriend loves certain aspects of your personality that she doesn't want changed.
Trying to improve yourself by losing a few pounds, or dressing better is always a good idea. Your ex will view you in a slightly different light and still consider you as an attractive partner. But drastic changes can alienate her attachment to you and also portray the changes as an act of desperation.
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