A typical love relationship quiz usually contains questions such as, "Do you feel tingly all over when you're near him/her?"
Such quizzes are useless in the real world. They are based strictly upon the emotional aspects of a situation while totally ignoring the factors comprising true compatibility.
Relationship Rescue
Many folks end up in an abusive situation by following their emotions instead of forming a healthy one based upon establishing real-world needs.
A better solution may be to ask:
1. What do I want out of this relationship?
2. Can I get what I want from this situation or is it not possible?
3. If these things are not forthcoming, is love enough to overcome the shortcomings of this situation for the rest of my life?
Be truthful! Lying to yourself is not a smart thing to do. Emotions alone cannot and will not sustain a situation lacking vital components that are important to you. Do not confuse simple lust for true love. There is a major difference between the two.
Basing a relationship strictly on lust and/or simple emotions almost guarantees you will be miserable for the rest of your life. That is no way to live.
You can avoid the trap formed by lust and emotions as well as the misery that comes with it if you are truthful with yourself regarding what you need and expect from your personal involvements.
Consider lust a momentary emotion but true love as a life-long situation based in reality.
A love relationship is strong because it supplies other needs you have as determined by thoroughly answering the questions found in the short quiz above.
Such quizzes are useless in the real world. They are based strictly upon the emotional aspects of a situation while totally ignoring the factors comprising true compatibility.
Relationship Rescue
Many folks end up in an abusive situation by following their emotions instead of forming a healthy one based upon establishing real-world needs.
A better solution may be to ask:
1. What do I want out of this relationship?
2. Can I get what I want from this situation or is it not possible?
3. If these things are not forthcoming, is love enough to overcome the shortcomings of this situation for the rest of my life?
Be truthful! Lying to yourself is not a smart thing to do. Emotions alone cannot and will not sustain a situation lacking vital components that are important to you. Do not confuse simple lust for true love. There is a major difference between the two.
Basing a relationship strictly on lust and/or simple emotions almost guarantees you will be miserable for the rest of your life. That is no way to live.
You can avoid the trap formed by lust and emotions as well as the misery that comes with it if you are truthful with yourself regarding what you need and expect from your personal involvements.
Consider lust a momentary emotion but true love as a life-long situation based in reality.
A love relationship is strong because it supplies other needs you have as determined by thoroughly answering the questions found in the short quiz above.
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