Love is something that, once we have it in our grasp, we do not
want to let it go. That is what makes it all the more difficult when a
romantic relationship with which we have been involved ends or is
threatened.
When your relationship has ended or seems like it is about to end despite your best efforts, there are many ways to react. Often, people in your situation go into panic mode, becoming anxious and skittish. Others go into a bout of deep depression. Still others, in an act of self-preservation, try go on with their lives as if nothing really is wrong - engaging in full-fledged denial of the truth.
Regardless of your particular reaction to the turn of events in your relationship, you probably want to do whatever you can to try to reconcile things with him or her.
If you are interested in reconciling a broken love relationship, here are 7 ways to bring back the love:
1. Bring to your mind and heart your favorite memory of the two of you together:
Start your journey back to love by centering yourself emotionally on the best parts of your relationship. To do this, close your eyes and bring up a memory of better times, when the two of you were at your happiest. Get in touch with what it was that makes this person so special to you - both then and now.
2. Do some introspection about your behavior while in the relationship:
Next, think honestly to yourself about how you behaved in your relationship. What did you do right? And, maybe more importantly, what did you that may have contributed to your problems?
3. Find it in your heart to forgive yourself for any mistakes you made:
Now, focusing on your own mistakes, forgive yourself for them. Stop beating yourself up for whatever you did that may have contributed to the relationship ending.
4. Forgive him or her for their mistakes:
Similarly, think of the two or three things that you have been resenting or are saddened by in terms of your spouse's or boyfriend/girlfriend's actions. Then, once have those firmly in mind, do yourself a favor and forgive him or her for their transgressions.
5. Write out how you would like to see your future unfold with him or her:
Write a few sentences or paragraphs about how you envision the ideal future of the two of you together. Do not worry about trying to win a writing contest - this is for your eyes only. Remember, the act of writing something down can make it much more powerful in your life.
6. Start a dialogue with him or her:
Now that you know where you stand and you have forgiven everyone involved, it is time to start a real dialogue with him or her. Call, write or visit him or her and just start talking again. Or, if you have not broken up yet and still see him or her every day, invite them to have coffee or tea with you but agree that you will not talk about anything unpleasant. Think of it like a first date all over again.
7. Put together a plan to work together to bring the love back:
Finally, put together a plan that both of you can commit to. Your plan should include concrete steps for bringing the two of you together again.
Consider these 7 ways to reconcile a broken love relationship - and then take action. Only through action can you hope to bring back the love again.
When your relationship has ended or seems like it is about to end despite your best efforts, there are many ways to react. Often, people in your situation go into panic mode, becoming anxious and skittish. Others go into a bout of deep depression. Still others, in an act of self-preservation, try go on with their lives as if nothing really is wrong - engaging in full-fledged denial of the truth.
Regardless of your particular reaction to the turn of events in your relationship, you probably want to do whatever you can to try to reconcile things with him or her.
If you are interested in reconciling a broken love relationship, here are 7 ways to bring back the love:
1. Bring to your mind and heart your favorite memory of the two of you together:
Start your journey back to love by centering yourself emotionally on the best parts of your relationship. To do this, close your eyes and bring up a memory of better times, when the two of you were at your happiest. Get in touch with what it was that makes this person so special to you - both then and now.
2. Do some introspection about your behavior while in the relationship:
Next, think honestly to yourself about how you behaved in your relationship. What did you do right? And, maybe more importantly, what did you that may have contributed to your problems?
3. Find it in your heart to forgive yourself for any mistakes you made:
Now, focusing on your own mistakes, forgive yourself for them. Stop beating yourself up for whatever you did that may have contributed to the relationship ending.
4. Forgive him or her for their mistakes:
Similarly, think of the two or three things that you have been resenting or are saddened by in terms of your spouse's or boyfriend/girlfriend's actions. Then, once have those firmly in mind, do yourself a favor and forgive him or her for their transgressions.
5. Write out how you would like to see your future unfold with him or her:
Write a few sentences or paragraphs about how you envision the ideal future of the two of you together. Do not worry about trying to win a writing contest - this is for your eyes only. Remember, the act of writing something down can make it much more powerful in your life.
6. Start a dialogue with him or her:
Now that you know where you stand and you have forgiven everyone involved, it is time to start a real dialogue with him or her. Call, write or visit him or her and just start talking again. Or, if you have not broken up yet and still see him or her every day, invite them to have coffee or tea with you but agree that you will not talk about anything unpleasant. Think of it like a first date all over again.
7. Put together a plan to work together to bring the love back:
Finally, put together a plan that both of you can commit to. Your plan should include concrete steps for bringing the two of you together again.
Consider these 7 ways to reconcile a broken love relationship - and then take action. Only through action can you hope to bring back the love again.
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